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Less than week ago we were still there. BFing before bed time and "all night long"

I decided that I had enough. The main problem was not the milk, but the very strong sleep association we created. In the airplane she had no problem going to sleep with no milk, at home in the bedroom she would not take anything else.

On the first night we went to bed all together. Andrey was telling her that I'm tired, that I need to seep and that I have a boo-boo. BFing did become painful in the last few weeks. She was nursing a lot while she was on antibiotics. So she was upset and didn't quite understand what was going on. 40 minutes of singing and stories and she was asleep. She didn't really cry, but she was very sad.

On the second night 40 minutes and very little crying.

Third night 20 min, no crying at all but we are still singing.

On the forth night she didn't ask for milk until 6 am! She was usually nursing around 10 and 4.

Fifth night she didn't even ask for milk and we were to lazy to sing and etc, she just played a little and went to bed.

From the third night when she didn't ask for milk until morning I stopped nursing at night. If she asks, I'll hug her and say that it's time to sleep. She might protest for a minute, but I'm too sleepy to get up, so I don't and after a minute or two she is asleep again.

It feels sooo good to sleep through the night )))))))))))))))))))) 

We still have the nap time which is more difficult to handle because she doesn't mind skipping it and I do, but we will think of something =) For now she is either nursing adn we are driving back home. I can always transfer her to the crib from her carseat o stroller, but we do need a better way to do this. 


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Dec. 24th, 2007 01:43 am (UTC)
Hi Elena,
Welcome back! That is quite a success story! It seems like the transition really was natural because Melissa adapted so quickly. Good for you! How was your trip? We would love to see you soon!
Dec. 25th, 2007 07:12 pm (UTC)
Thanks Jenn! Vacation was awesome!!! We have lots of pictures here http://flickr.com/photos/88047630@N00/page5/

We would love to do something! We really wanted to join everyone at the Aquarium, but I had a dentist appointment.

What did you get for Cady for Christmas?

Dec. 30th, 2007 03:55 am (UTC)
WOW WOW WOW!!!! CONGRATULATIONS! i can't wait to hear details in person - sounds too good to be true! ethan would NEVER accept the change so easily! it takes me 30 minutes to get him to sleep and that's WITH bfeeding! whenever i've tried to refuse milk (at bedtime or in the middle of the night) he cries and cries and cries until i just can't take it. he just doesn't understand and gets so angry and sad. herb can get him to sleep (obviously w/out bfeeding), but takes a very loooong time and sometimes with lots of crying. and it doesn't stop the waking pattern later in the night so it's less stressful to just bfeed. don't know how we'll ever wean! :( i am sooooo tired and would LOVE to sleep through the night. are you still bfeeding at all during the day?

miss you! we would love to see you guys sometime soon!
Jan. 2nd, 2008 06:20 pm (UTC)
I would love to meet with you. Can you do this Friday or someday next week?
Jan. 4th, 2008 01:41 am (UTC)
i think next week is better - although we might be free tomorrow p.m. we might have some visitors, but i won't know until tomorrow around 2. should we try to get a group together at together in motion or kids space sometime next week?
Jan. 4th, 2008 02:32 am (UTC)
It'll be really nice if we all can get together again!

I prefer kids space. It's hard to talk there, but at together-in-motion it's close to impossible )))

We can meet at my place too, although it's still small.

We have no plans for next week. Melissa takes a nap 12 to 3 and on Thursday we have Art Gymboree at 10. Any other time is fine.
Jan. 2nd, 2008 06:33 pm (UTC)
YAY ELENA!! The best part of your story is that you had a goal and stuck to your plan and I am sure that even Melissa is happy to get more sleep. I can imagine this is a HUGE benefit to her as well, good job, Mom! I have no doubt that you will figure out a way to get her to nap. What we have done since very little is to establish a nap-time ritual. It works like a bomb! Just like the breastfeeding has been a ritual to tell her body that it is time to sleep, if you do the same thing everytime it will be a cue for her to take a nap/go to bed. We use a stuffed animal and a pacifier that he only gets when it's time to sleep (or Dr's offices/long car rides). I turn on a white noise machine (or you could use a CD) and I sing 2 songs. Even if it is not his regular nap-time it's like a drug and I can take these three things with me anywhere in the world and he feels safe to fall asleep, even in a strange bed! Let us know what works for you.
Congratulations and Happy New Year!
Jan. 4th, 2008 02:36 am (UTC)
HI TARRYN!!!!!!!!!!! I haven't seen you for AGES! How are you? Where are you? How if Fynn and Leaf? Are they getting along well?

THanks so much for the advice, I really need it/ We had absolutely no routine all this time. It was always her initiative to go to bed actuallly, not mine. She says that she wants to sleep and we go to the bedroom. I'll have to think of something. We also need that kind of "drug" now)))) For us, as you see it was always nursing.
Jan. 5th, 2008 02:45 am (UTC)
We still use CD music as our sleep cue(or "drug!")- the same CD since she was born for bedtime and then a different one for nap. John keeps burning them on the computer b/c they always get scratched we use them so much! Anyway, the same songs = time to sleep for Cady. If you try this make sure to pick something you like b/c you will listen to it again and again! We use Return to Pooh Corner by Kenny Loggins for bedtime, and a CD called "Sleep for Mom" I got at Target that's all instrumental - kind of new age-y.
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